Though this day is celebrated in various ways in different parts of India, it essentially entails sisters applying a tilak of roli (vermilion), kesar (saffron) and rice on their brother's forehead as a mark of their love and protection. They also pray for his prosperity, well being and good luck.
In Uttar Pradesh, an aab is made by twisting flax into a circular shape. It is dotted with roli, and batashas (a kind of sweet) are placed in the centre. There are two aabs for each brother. The story of Bhai Dooj is narrated as the sister applies a tilak of roli and rice to her brother's forehead. An aarti is then performed for the brother.
In Bengal, this occasion is called Bhai fota. Sisters fast all morning till the ritual is completed. The tilak is made of ghee, sandalwood paste and kaajal. Diyas and incense sticks are an integral part of the ceremony. An aarti is also performed. The elder of the brother and sister gives the younger one rice and durba, a type of grass. Rice is a symbol of plenty and the evergreen durba is symbolic of longevity. Kheer and coconut laddoos are a must-eat.
In Bihar, believe it or not, sisters start the occasion by heaping the choicest of curses on their brothers! Having done that, they prick their own tongues as punishment, with a thorny, wild fruit and ask for their brothers' forgiveness for the curses, and also for past mistakes. They then bless them and pray for their welfare. The brothers swallow a few grains of bajri with water, before tasting yummy sweets from their sisters' hands.
