6. Set a good example for dealing with stress.
   If you have stress or conflict in your life, talk about it honestly with your children. They need to know that such struggles are a natural and normal part of life. It's how you deal with these struggles that's important.

7. Share your successes -- and failures -- with your children.
   Perhaps you're trying to lose weight, quit smoking or adopt a healthier lifestyle. When you're making an effort to change your own behavior, talk about it openly with your children. It's OK to let them know when you've failed or fallen short of a goal -- and it may make it easier for them to tell you when they've made a mistake. You're also conveying an important message: change isn't easy and mistakes are opportunities for learning.

8. Show that you love and value each member of your family.
   Let your children know that spending time together is something you look forward to. Make plans ahead of time to do special things such as going to a movie or museum. Also enjoy spur-of-the-moment activities -- going out for ice cream or taking a walk after a rainstorm.

9. Discuss how the media portray alcohol, tobacco and drugs.
   Talk with your children about images and messages conveyed by television, music, movies, billboards and other media that glamorize alcohol and other drugs. Let them know what you think and guide them in recognizing the other side of what appears to be glamorous.

10. Take a genuine interest in your children's school and your community.
    Support school and community programs that benefit children. Give your time as a volunteer. Attend functions to show your children you're interested in their activities. When your time is limited, make an effort to keep in touch with other parents to share ideas about how adults can set good examples for our children.

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