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Take a Firm Stand,
Don't Give In To Your Child's Tantrums
Have you ever noticed your
child drawing your attention to some mischief he has done and then waiting
for your reaction ? It is commonly observed that children love attention
and the more you check them about their mischief, they more they indulge
in it.
How often your child plays
this game with you depends on how much you let him know you don't like it.
The more upset you get, the more the child will tease you. This isn't
perversity on your child's part. This is only a way to assert his will.
So, how do you prevent your children from engaging in such behaviour ?
You can be very stern with
them, admonish or threaten them. But such measures are harmful in the long
run. Here are some gentle ways in which you can check your child's
behaviour and let him know how wrong it is.
Don't
React
If in a fit of rage - that
you haven't treated him to his favorite pizza for the fifth consecutive
day - your son calls you stupid, don't react. What if he keeps repeating ?
Try saying something funny. There is a good chance that he'll be reduced
to giggles. Immediately, the bad mood will fizzle out and he will settled
for some regular food.
Repeat
Yourself
If the child is in a
particularly foul mood, then look at him calmly and say : "In our
family, we don't call each other names." Keep repeating the same
thing till he is fed up and gives up. By doing this, he'll realize that
you are not being affected and the message will be very clearly put across
to him.
Don't
Respond
One of the ways to deal with
your child's provocative behaviour is not to respond. Stop talking to him.
Pretend that you are too busy with your chores. if you show that you
aren't interested, he'll also lose interest. Lose interest and he probably
will too.
Ignore
the Child
If your child becomes
stubborn and demands to buy him all the toys, don't give in. No matter
what tantrums he throws at you, just pretend that you didn't hear and keep
ignoring him. Or tell him curtly that you are not buying him anything.
Eventually, you will draw home the point.
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